Ah… the process of unbecoming — the sacred unraveling.

Not a loss, but a return. Not destruction, but revelation.

To unbecome is to peel away every layer that was never truly you —

Every role, every should, every mask worn for love, acceptance, or survival.

It’s the shedding of:

 • The stories you inherited but never questioned.

 • The expectations that silenced your soul.

 • The habits built around fear, not freedom.

 • The self you crafted to stay small, safe, invisible.

Unbecoming is not the end — it’s the beginning. 

A remembering.

A reclamation.

A homecoming to your essence.

A Letter to My Former Self 

Dear One,

You did everything you were taught to do.

You followed the rules, wore the masks, played the parts.

You tried so hard to be good, to be enough, to be loved — and you were. Even when you forgot.

I see how much you carried.

The weight of expectations, the silence you kept, the smiles you wore when your soul ached for truth.

You shaped yourself to fit into...

“Unbecoming the Box” 

The world—and often religion—hands us a box early on.

Labeled. Measured. Tied up with expectations we never agreed to.

We are taught to shrink into it, to mute the colors that don’t match its palette.

So we start masking.

We perform. We polish. We fight to fit, or fight to break free.

But in both, we are still dancing around the box.

We think healing is about fixing what’s broken.

But sometimes, healing is simply seeing that we were never broken to begin with—

just burdened by beliefs that weren’t ours.

We begin to awaken.

We realize that every gift comes with a cross to bear.

The light draws shadows.

Joy and sorrow, creation and collapse—yin and yang—are forever entwined.

To carry light is to understand darkness intimately.

And then something deeper unfolds:

We are not meant to perform wholeness.

We are meant to embody it—through authenticity, not perfection.

The authentication process isn’t about becoming more—it’s about unbecoming ...

Let be start off by saying I am by no means a biblical scholar, but this is what God laid on my heart when I took time to look back on a year that’s been marked by more unexpected twists and turns than I’ve ever experienced in my entire life. So often we hear people say “If God closes one door, He’ll open another one” OR “If God closes a door, He’ll open a window”.  When you’re in recovery from a door being closed in your face, do these phrases bring you any peace? Of course they don’t.  Because when you are in the middle of your transitional season it is hard to see the light in the midst of the darkness. 

Most people are too attached to the past, to what they are familiar with, and therefore, miss opportunities that stand right in front of them. This is why it is so difficult to see another past the closed door.  What if I told you those closed doors have perks? Closed doors provide clarity if you are willing to acknowledge them for what they really are…an opportunity to be reminded...

In my last blog I wrote about knowing and loving the skin you are in.  That is the foundation to living an authentic & purposeful life.  The next vital step would have to be knowing our most valuable resource.  

Our most precious resource is not money; it is time. More specifically, the ability to gift our time to ourselves, and others, in a manner which allows us to derive the maximum enjoyment from life. Of course, just like money; how you spend your time is critically important.

“Give us this day...  We are given a certain number of days to manifest what we were put here to achieve. We must learn to value our time and know how to us it wisely.  Appreciating time has had such a profound impact on me that it’s the frame in which I ask myself important questions. Are the things that made me happy 10 years ago still making me happy? What would make me happy 20 years from now? How much happier will more money make me? What should I spend my remaining time doing?  That’s why the sooner ...

None of us are the same, and that is the beauty of creation. We all have a specific destiny to manifest.  No one is exactly like anyone else.  It would be a very boring and bland world if we all were identical wouldn’t it?  If we know this to be true, then why are so many depressed and feeling like their lives don’t matter. Truth be told it is because we fail to know our role. 

The chicken is happy is to be a chicken...they know who they are!  They do not pray for larger feathers to fly. They know they are the most asked for cuisine. They know they are not meant to soar in the sky and they most certainly know that they are not known to be majestic.  They know their purpose and that they are not like anyone else.

The eagle is majestic and functions on another level than the chicken. They soar through the sky unlike the chicken, but they are not in demand on anyone’s dinner plate. Though they are beautiful and can fly; they are not tasty and they accept that. 

Each have their purpose ...

Truth is a high currency in 2020.  It is of great value.  This season is calling us to find truth.  The truth of what is going on in the world around us and the truth of who we are called to be.  Many are finding that the world is changing so fast that they do not know where they fit in anymore. So many are asking themselves what piece of the puzzle do they hold. We are at a crossroads.  You can view this pause as a stepping stone or a stumbling block.  It is all based on your perception of what the truth is. 

No one can doubt that there is a battle for your mind happening everyday.  From politics to the pandemic, it seems everyday that there are new disputes rising. If you are a believer like I am, then you know this time was predicted in Mathew 24.  It should be of no surprise that people are getting offended by every little thing (such as wearing a mask).  It should come as a shock of the uproar that is taking place in our government and amongst races.  All we see on social media a...

In our society today, there is a characteristic that is not common to most people – perseverance! The human default reaction to difficult times in life is to give up and go another direction. However, if you are going to succeed in life you have to have the intestinal fortitude to face tough times & NOT give up and give in into your fears.  We live in a broken world and life can be hard & unfair. There will be situations when you come up against a great wall of trouble! Many of us hate this and will just want to throw our hands in the air and give up. 

To give up means to give over or give into the control or possession of another. To give up means to stop doing something permanently. In life when we stop seeking what is next we shut off any avenue of growth or improvement. The purpose of this blog is to encourage you to NOT give up!   

There’s nothing that you can ever be in life that is greater than doing what you were born to do. It’s the incontestable, undeniable mark knowing you...

In my last blog I spoke about getting back to the basics.  Showing the foundation skills of human kindness.  Patience, love, and grace just to name a few.  I don’t know about you, but I am tired of the hate and slander that many people from ALL walks of life are displaying. 

From believer to nonbeliever and Republican to Democrat it seems that people are more focused on proving they are right instead of bringing forth authentic change.  As a former educator, to me, people participating in these exploits sound like my class of pre-k students fighting over a toy. The sad thing it is grown people behaving this way!

 I refuse to play a part of this ridiculous behavior.  I am here to shine a different light on the situation going on in our world.  I am sure I am not the only one that sees this, but we are fighting a battle of the mind with weapons of the flesh. Never in history has this worked, so I am not sure why people ( Christians especially) don’t see the difference. 

As the childre...